Proverbs 9:8 (KJV)
Reprove not a scorner, lest he hate thee: rebuke a wise man, and he will love thee.
Our anchored Scripture teaches us a valuable lesson about how we receive correction and criticism. It offers wisdom about how we approach correction and advice. A scorner dismisses or mocks correction, often responding with hostility. They are set in their ways, closed to advice, and view criticism as a personal attack. The mocker or fool dismisses advice and rebukes, leading to stagnation and potential downfall. Rebuking them often leads to resentment and conflict. A wise man readily embraces and values rebuke, using it as an opportunity for growth and self-improvement. Instead of taking offense, they embrace constructive criticism with gratitude, understanding that it helps them become better individuals. Loving correction comes from a place of humility and a desire for continuous learning. It’s natural to feel defensive when we’re criticized, but the wise path is to humble ourselves and consider the feedback. This doesn’t mean that all criticism is valid or delivered kindly. However, a wise person discerns the truth in the correction and uses it as a stepping stone to improve. Proverbs 13:1 says, “A wise son heareth his father’s instruction: but a scorner heareth not rebuke.”
A prime rule for life is the importance of gaining wisdom through correction, instruction, rebukes, reproofs, and warnings of others. Accepting rebuke and correction is humility; it reveals our greatness. Wise men will welcome reproofs and love the one giving them, but scorners will reject the instructions and hate the one offering them. In our professional and personal lives, receiving rebuke can be challenging. However, adopting a teachable attitude and appreciating constructive criticism can lead to personal and professional growth. Instead of taking offense, see it as an opportunity to improve. We open ourselves to personal growth and deeper understanding by embracing correction with wisdom. It helps us to become better versions of ourselves and to build stronger, more meaningful relationships with those around us. In our walk of faith and daily living, rebukes encourage us to be humble, to listen more and speak less, and to value the wisdom shared with us. Practicing this can lead to personal growth, stronger relationships, and a more fulfilling life. Many find it difficult to accept and appreciate criticism because the ways of men are right in their own eyes. Since they think they are correct, they dislike anyone who reproves and warns them about the recklessness and foolishness of their choices, character, or conduct. Common sense, they say, is not common at all. Those filled with their ways have less room for advice.
Beloved, having a growth mindset means viewing challenges and feedback as opportunities to learn and grow. Rather than seeing criticism as a setback, see it as a stepping stone towards becoming a better version of yourself. Make an effort to be open to constructive criticism, for wisdom grows through your willingness to learn and improve. Whether it’s from a friend, a colleague, or even from your own reflections, seek wisdom in all criticism. By accepting rebuke graciously and striving to improve, you set an example for others. It is wise to swallow your pride and heed the great words of wisdom. Be refreshed and filled with gratitude when blessed with words of wisdom. Don’t drive away good friends who can help bring you sound thinking, wisdom, and success. Don’t be so full of yourself that you cannot hear God through others when delivering constructive criticism. Surround yourself with people willing to offer honest criticism out of care and respect. Healthy relationships are built on mutual trust and the willingness to support each other’s growth. Appreciate those who provide constructive criticism as they contribute to your personal development. Remember, an open rebuke by a faithful friend, though it hurts, is better than lying kisses and the secret love of a shoddy friend.
O Lord, help me to be humble and open to correction. Grant me the wisdom to discern valuable rebukes and the courage to act on them in Jesus’ Name.